Dear Abby: My mother and I don't have a good connection.

Please bear with me even if it may make me look like a horrible person.

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The photo didn't include my father. I expected her to modify her way of life as I got older and moved out, but she never did.

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I have to continuously put my life and my goals on wait in order to meet her requirements.

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